Some Random Thoughts – What is a True Friend

People with Fibromyalgia many times will discover who their true friends really are. This essay is taken from a variety of different post, ideas and opinions.

What is a True Friend?

 A true friend is someone you can count on to laugh with you, cry with you and be there for you through good times and bad. Unfortunately, people do not come with a true friend label; you need to be able to spot the characteristics of a good friend.Throughout your life, you will encounter many, many people. Some of them will become good buddies and some will become true friends. The difference between a good friend and good buddy is that the friend will be with you for life. Buddies come and go with school, work and neighborhoods, but a true friendship can survive being separated by continents.It is very disappointing when someone you thought was a friend lets you down. It can be very hurtful when you lose a friendship. You may be sad, lonely and even angry with the “friend” who let you down.While there is no guarantee that a friendship will last, you can look for several characteristics in a person. If they have the following traits, they are more likely to become your lifelong friend. Luckily, you will be able to tell if a person has these characteristics right away; they are core values that will be apparent in everything a person does.Characteristics of a True Friend

  • Honest and trustworthy: Can they keep a secret? A good friend doesn’t gossip about you. Do they tell they truth? If they lie to you or about you, they are not a true friend. At the same time, however, a true friend will always look out for you. If you ask a friend to keep something that’s harmful a secret, like drug use or stealing, they may tell somebody in an attempt to get you help. That’s not betrayal, that’s caring.
  • Good Listener: Do they listen to you or do they only talk about themselves? If you tell them that you don’t eat junk food, do they remember that?
  • Loyal: Do they stick with you even when you are grumpy? Are they still your friend when your sick or out of money? If someone is gossiping about you, will your friend step in and put a stop to it?
  • Available: Are they available when you need them? If you need to talk instead of going to the movies, are they willing to sit and talk with you? Will they help you finish your chores when you are disabled?
  • Supportive: A true friend will never make you do something that goes against your moral or religious beliefs. They will not ask you to lie, steal or cheat.

If your friend has these characteristics, you know you have found someone who is a true friend. Be a good friend to this person, and you’ll benefit from this friendship for many years to come.

Bethany’s Story

Last summer, Bethany had to go into the hospital for three days of medical tests. One test required her to be sleep deprived for more than 30 hours. While her mom husband stayed with her, it was hard to keep Bethany awake the whole time. So, one of Bethany’s best friends, Shannon, asked her husband to bring her to the hospital to stay with Bethany and help keep her awake. They arrived at 2:00am. If that isn’t a sign of true friendship, nothing is. Shannon was able to stay with Bethany through the morning which was a wonderful boost for Bethany and even Bethany’s husband, who was able to get a few hours of sleep. Without Shannon to help share the load, the whole stay in the hospital would have been much more difficult.

Friends ease burdens.

When a friend is going through troubled times, being there to encourage them, even if it’s just being a shoulder to cry on or to simply listen, can make all the difference in the world. Even when things are going great, having someone recognize and appreciate your accomplishments can be just as important. With so much emphasis placed on success and accomplishment this in this day and age, having someone to witness your achievements can make even the minor victories meaningful.Unfortunately, sometimes, loyalty can be tested. We’ve all had situations where someone we’d consider a true friend has let us down. Friends, even true friends, are still human and because they’re human they can make mistakes.

Forgiveness is essential in friendships. Accepting a friend even though they may make a mistake shows them that you respect them enough to realize they’re human.

No one is perfect. Have you always lived up to your highest potential? Sometimes, we can be the cause of problems that create negative effects for people who were counting on us. Because of this, friendships can be tested. A true friend accepts you, faults and all, though. A genuine friend understands that you make mistakes.

Character is often referred to as a fading quality in today’s society, but among friends, it is essential. When you think of a true friend, you expect that they’re loyal (and keep things just between friends), but you also want them to be honest. Even if you’re doing something wrong, you have to trust your friend to tell you and help you through it. It can be a delicate balancing act between being loyal to a friend and being honest, and perhaps that maybe why good friends are hard to find. But friends that have the courage to tell you when you’re wrong, who care enough for you to speak the truth, are genuine friends.

We may have many acquaintances as we travel through life, but if we have 2 or 3 real friends, we are very lucky and very much ahead of the game.

After all, what is important in life: health, family, friends, a place to live and food to eat.

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